like I'm serious, y'all need to understand that knowingly or not on their part there's a subset of supposedly leftist queers online who are using their friendship with you to basically pull you away from any BIPOC person who will dare criticize them for their racism or attempt to hold them accountable
they will do it with civility politics and very much claim that it's justified because the BIPOC in question is actually totally queerphobic
There are so many cases of this I've been seeing