This!! This is the only way I can function! My phone makes a noise if I get an Actual Call, text, or email, but that's IT for me. Messaging programs on my PC have a similar treatment. I get a little change in the icon itself, but if I had something bouncing up and down in the corner of my screen every time someone DM'd me or messaged in a server I'm in, I would go NUTS (and it doesn't even happen very often!)
This DOES mean I'm usually a bit slow to reply when folks are chatting with me (which I apologize for), but it means I can approach the conversation when I'm ready to, which is probably better for both of us anyways :v
I've been struggling a lot with audio communication with peeps online or on the phone, and it was so frustrating when I couldn't figure out at first how to make Discord stop buzzing me every single time someone messaged me TwT I do often wind up waiting to get back into conversations as a result, but it helps with my mental health so much to not feel like I'm on call every few seconds.
