sapphic-cecaelia

Pathetic Lesbian Supremacy

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gotta be on every social media site until I find one that doesn't hurt


pervocracy
@pervocracy

there's a comfort in the back hallways of big buildings

being the organic thing in the rectangulated world, the rat in the maze

schools, hospitals, hotels, casinos, offices

buildings that are forests inside, with their own too-perfect weather, their own unblinking suns

their own bright glens and dark trails

and when you are alone at the furthest end of the darkest trail

the locked doors to forgotten rooms

close in like the trunks of great trees



pervocracy
@pervocracy
  • Discoverability tags (non-sexual):
  • Discoverability tags (sexual):
  • Content warnings:
  • Content warnings but they don't hide the post unless someone has it in their settings:
  • NOT content warnings because that's a moral judgement, but something that works exactly like them:
  • Static checkboxes for common triggers:
  • Configurable checkboxes for your friends' weird triggers:
  • Side comments on your own post:
  • Missing context that was funny to omit from the post, but if you don't put it somewhere people will be confused:
  • Users to notify of post:
  • Users to block from only this post:
  • Users to notify of post and then block from it:
  • Indication of whether post is meant seriously:
  • Indication of whether poster wants advice on their problem or not:
  • 18+/NSFW/lewd/please just tell me whether I'm about to scroll piss fetish content on a crowded train:
  • Contemplations on the problem that community-enforced expectations of acceptable content and tagging practices never reach truly universal usage (or even universal knowledge of their existence), so hardcoded software solutions are always best, but at the same time it's impossible for the devs to account for every possible situation and the ever-shifting preferences of their users, so whatever we end up with will always be a compromise:


sitcom
@sitcom

As An Addict™ i think i don't really... understand why people are so insistent that x or y addiction "isn't a thing". if someone has a compulsive relationship with something in a way that is negatively effecting their life, even if the negative effect is just "i feel bad about doing this but that has not lead me to stop doing it", i think that sounds a lot like addiction. in my opinion, the problem is not calling something an addiction. the problems start when we start reacting like we react to addiction-- which is to say, badly, & stupidly, & ineffectively.


sapphic-cecaelia
@sapphic-cecaelia

I wanna share this (very long) post cus I think it's a pretty thoughtful and important perspective.
Personally, I've focused a lot on the "not a real addiction" line in most arguments to try to counter message the "porn is evil and rots your brain and your dick will fall off" crowd. The people who define "porn addict" as basically anyone who has a healthy relationship w porn that isn't 100% abstinence.
But you're right, that's not really helpful to people who are struggling w their relationship to porn and sex. And in what sex positive spaces and sex education resources that have survived this wave of puritanism, there's really little discussion about how to work on those unhealthy relationships or addiction. Just like w alcoholism, these people only really get support from religious extremists.
I don't really have anything helpful or important conclusions, this is just.. makin me think a lot.