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learning doctor. i help people make computers do things.

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thewaether
@thewaether

a big part of being trans online is not relating to 90% of relatable trans posts & that's ok


blorgblorgblorg
@blorgblorgblorg

i was never able to get into fallout new vegas and every time someone online talks about it as a Trans ExperienceĀ® it gives me hives


ByCharlotteFinn
@ByCharlotteFinn

I don't know what's up with the shark


irisjaycomics
@irisjaycomics

also most moe anime drives me up a fucking wall and I don’t really click with yuri unless the girls are banging, thinking about banging, or actively trying to murder each other


anderjak
@anderjak

i have only a marginal interest in speedrunning, and even then only casually.


Draggo
@Draggo

I never got the appeal of DnD. I hate almost all forms of fantasy that aren't heavily based on real life.


Kailaria
@Kailaria

I can’t stand pickles. I don’t mind pickled jalapeƱos, but pickles (I.e. pickled cucumbers) are a flat no from me. Always picked them off of my burgers when taking out and eventually learned to special order at restaurants when they are typically included.

But yeah, I have some early childhood trauma from a snack share day in kindergarten and being forced as an autistic kid (who didn’t know she was autistic or a girl at the time) to try everyone’s favorite snack. It didn’t go well.

My salt cravings from the spiro when I was on it were sated by French fries, instead!


ChaiaEran
@ChaiaEran

I remember seeing a fantastic Twitter thread a while back from a Black trans woman (I searched for it, couldn't find it, sorry) about how a lot of the things that get claimed as "queer culture" by white trans women tend to just be things that are part of a suburban white male upbringing that white trans women brought with them when they transitioned, rather than things that are actually emblematic of the queer community.


rujasu
@rujasu

I've never made a picrew. Don't really like seeing myself depicted in any sort of cartoon/anime form.


PoorlyDrawnBees
@PoorlyDrawnBees

Between the aforementioned thread about how online "transfemme culture" is a collection of tropes brought forward from pretransition cis-presenting interests and another thread on here from early this year where someone talked about transitioning in the past and the stereotypes from her area was that trans femmes were hair stylists and the like, there's a lot to think about.

Hello,

My name is Emily Smart and I hail from Nova Scotia, Canada. I came out to my ex-wife at the age of 32. My early childhood consisted of my parents getting divorced when I was 4 years old, which led my mother to raising us for a few years in a trailer park before we moved to a very small farming community. After that I spent most of my formulative years as the stepdaughter of a lobster fisherman. It was a loud and financially poor upbringing, including a year in what should've been a condemned building with walls infested by spiders. I was often surrounded by large men banging the table and boisterously sharing drinks and crude jokes, and often had to make my own entertainment outside of that as I didn't even have the internet or any contact with life outside the fishing village until I was 16.

Now I haven't met you yet, but maybe you grew up in a comfortable, quiet suburban home, never at the top of the world but never struggling either. Or you over there, maybe you were lucky enough to be born to a queer household and were able to chase your dreams and/or yourself earlier than most. Or even you over there who grew up alone, never talking to everybody, even transitioning in silence keeping to yourself.

The four of us may very well have absolutely nothing in common aside from popping estrogen. There's no culture tie, no shared experience outside of being of similar genders. And that's just the thing isn't it. You look around, your initial social experience may have suffered from your transition and the fact that hey you went from being a majority to someone that represents like what, .3 to .5 percent of the population depending on which stats you look at?

So you go online looking for a community, a place to belong. But what you come across are those of us who were already Very Online pretransition, and as such they have the appearance of setting the 'norms' of what being us is. But that's not you, or me, or you over there. Why is this so hard and isolating?

Culture often seems to be something that you're born into. Whether it's racial, geographic or even religious a lot of cultures are something that's been fostered since birth. But that's not the same for us is it? We weren't born as we are, we had to pursue that and change years/decades after the fact. Mixed in with that is the fact that white history was built on rugged hyper-individuality instead of inclusiveness and yeah, you get put in a situation where you basically have to find "your people" except there's no unifying culture as we weren't raised to be included with each other. Even when you find other trans people they may be very, very different from who you are even at the most core level and it can be alienating.

I guess what I'm suggesting is don't sweat "white trans culture". It doesn't exist anyway, the whole concept is a meme. You are who you are, but even if it's harder to find "your people" I promise you that you're not alone, even if you can't relate to what some people say online. :eggbug-smile-hearts:


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in reply to @ByCharlotteFinn's post:

Actually it was a greentext post (I think, or maybe a Reddit post) about a closeted trans woman living with her parents who was secretly on HRT. Her parents had a tendency to sweep her room (the real paranoid types) so she hid them in a Blaja plush, as that was the one place the parents wouldn't think to look.

The post got popular on social media, everyone started calling Blaja a trans ally, and it snowballed from there.

Addendum: I cannot find the post I'm referring to anymore, and i can't find any mention either with the closest being Newsweek saying the memes started "on Reddit".

However, in my personal experience, Blaja was a relative unknown right up until screenshots of said post were circulating Twitter, at which point it was like all the doors lighting up from laughter in Monster's Inc. in terms of proliferation. It was suddenly everywhere.

Current day, it's probably just the colors thing. It would appear this post is lost to time, and served moreso as a catalyst than a cause.

in reply to @Kailaria's post:

Portillo’s used to be a great place for fries, but they changed the oil that they fry them in under a decade ago, so they aren’t as good as they used to be.

If a smaller burger, cheesesteak, or bbq place has fresh-cut fries that include some that have the potato skin on it, I find those places’ fries to be really good, especially if they have a Cajun option. Steak-cut fries are also pretty good, but you’ll usually only find those at steakhouses or Red Robin, at which point it’s probably more cost efficient to make it yourself at home if all you want is the fries.

For fast food chains outside Portillos… they’re all pretty trashy, IMO. Arby’s curly fries might be the best ones out there of this type for flavor, but they also don’t feel that healthy. I guess McDonald’s is fine enough too..? Wendy’s at least tastes like potato, but they under-salt them, so you’d have to add more at home. However, I don’t really order from these budget fast food places frequently even when I’m pinching pennies since I can just make food at home for overall cheaper thanks to ordering in relative bulk, and I have potato and tortilla chips to satisfy any side cravings that I like better than most places’ fries.