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Elden Thing | Back & Body Hurts Platinugggggh Rewards Member


Profile pic and banner credits: sharkaeopteryx art by @superkiak! eggbug by eggbug! Mash-up by me!
[Alt-text for pfp: a cute sharkaeopteryx sat on the ground with legs out, wings down, jaw ajar, and hed empty, looking at eggbug and eggbug's enigmatic smile.]
[Alt-text for banner: a Spirit Halloween banner with eggbug and the sharkaeopteryx that Superkiak drew for me looking at it with inscrutable expressions]


I'm a Vietnamese cis woman born and currently living in the U.S. You may know me from Sandwich, from Twitter or Mastodon (same username), or on Twitch as Sharkaeopteryx. I do not have a Discord or Bluesky account.

Ask me about language learning/teaching, cooking/eating food, late diagnosis ADHD, and volunteer small business mentoring. Or don't, I'm not the boss of you.


I think people deserve to be young, make mistakes, and grow without being held to standards they don't know about yet and are still learning. So, if you are under 22, please don't try to strike up a friendship or get involved in discussions on my posts.


Please don't automatically assume I follow/know/co-sign someone just because I reposted something from them—sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Also, if you think being removed as a follower when we're not mutuals is a cardinal sin, please do not follow me.


🐘Mastodon
search for @sharksonaplane@mastodon.sandwich.net and hit follow if you want
Hang out with me on the Auldnoir forum! (you can DM there!)
discourse.auldnoir.org/
Follow me on Twitch
twitch.tv/sharkaeopteryx
Add my RSS feed (not working yet but I'll get to it!)
sharkaeopteryx.neocities.org/rss.xml

Gentle reminder that in many cases, if enablers of abusers fit the abuser's target profile, they are often the 1st victims and it can be harder for them to break away, especially without a strong support network.

This is NOT to justify any enabling actions: I firmly believe ex-enablers should hold themselves accountable for their actions and don't automatically "deserve" absolution or anything from the abuser's other victims just for breaking off (any given should be treasured as the largesse it is). I am simply trying to say that if someone you saw as an enabler because of their support for an abuser is finally breaking away (and you are NOT also a victim of the abuser, I cannot stress that enough), support, not scorn, is what they need. A lot of times abusers manipulate themselves into their victims' lives until they're entangled and the whole point is to make it difficult for any of their victims to break away.

(P.S. Obviously "y'all don't support me, I'll go back to the shitty person" is a shitty person thing to do, I don't support that behavior either and it's not a justification for any of this; the point is compassion, particularly for victims who don't "fit the profile." The person who did the abuse in the first place is the one who deserves punishment.)


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