shel

The Transsexual Chofetz Chaim

Mutant, librarian, poet, union rabble rouser, dog, Ashkenazi Jewish. Neuroweird, bodyweird, mostly sleepy.


I write about transformative justice, community, love, Judaism, Neurodivergence, mental health, Disability, geography, rivers, labor, and libraries; through poetry, opinionated essays, and short fiction.


I review Schoolhouse Rock! songs at @PropagandaRock


Website (RSS + Newsletter)
shelraphen.com/

Some Discourse got me to put my age in my bio everywhere some time back but I didn't wanna give the exact age for opsec reasons so I've just been giving a wide range. But when I turn 30 eventually it's going to noticably change from "late twenties" to "thirties" and everyone will know my exact age is 30 at this time.

Solution: I will start identifying as in my 30s at some arbitrary point before or after I turn 30. Like when I turn 28 if I haven't already or when I turn 32 if I haven't already. This is highly stigmatized in our society. Identifying as in your 30s when you're in your late twenties is stolen valor, but identifying as in your 20s when you're actually in your 30s is pathetic. It's a catch-22

But here's the thing: spiritually and physically I turned 30 about three years ago and it's the literal and metaphorical prophecy that I will turn 30 three years from now. Materially speaking, I'll definitely be in my thirties six years from now, but I think six years ago I was already basically there too when you think about what matters most in life (your knees hurting)

I've been thinking about this for a while actually which is why I never updated my age when I turned 30 last year and will probably wait a bit to update my age when I turn 30 next year. So this post has been planned for a few years as a smoke grenade so whenever I update my age you can't be quite sure.

Mostly it's just important that nobody thinks I'm younger than 25, which I haven't been for 1–6 years now when you think about.


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in reply to @shel's post:

i don't personally mind if people have my exact age but my twitter bio started describing me as "like thirty" somewhere around 26 or 27 i think & i figure i'll keep it until it feels right to say i'm like forty :')

Sounds like you could benefit from listing yourself by customer age demographic! Just put yourself in the (24-35) age range. Gets the right point across for what you're going for here, lol

nobody is going to care about it being off by a year or two so I vote just change it a year or two early or late or put a range.

much smaller window, but I have my age in and don't like people wishing me a happy birthday so i just remove my age for a few weeks around it and then put it back afterwards