shel

The Transsexual Chofetz Chaim

Mutant, librarian, poet, union rabble rouser, dog, Ashkenazi Jewish. Neuroweird, bodyweird, mostly sleepy.


I write about transformative justice, community, love, Judaism, Neurodivergence, mental health, Disability, geography, rivers, labor, and libraries; through poetry, opinionated essays, and short fiction.


I review Schoolhouse Rock! songs at @PropagandaRock


Website (RSS + Newsletter)
shelraphen.com/

Bewildering kink fantasies are one of the most beautiful things in this world. Screw “don’t psychoanalyze kinks” one of the most fun things is to encounter an incredibly specific and strange kink fantasy only one person has and to try and rotate it from every angle and try to find out what kind of deep psychic desire this hits for that person. Even more fun if you can talk to that person and propose scenarios to them and get live feedback on if you’re hitting on the kink or not or if you’re getting further away from what they find hot about it.

I don’t need to find it hot to find it fascinating as a way to look into the human condition and to understand someone’s mind. Like, I see, you want your cum to be sold as a skin care product because it is a way that you are being valued and useful to other people now I understand. And what does this say about what our society values and how it conveys that value.


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100% on board with this. I have a friend who went through something very specific in their life, and when they told me what it was, like 3 to 4 of their Kinks just all fell into place like puzzle pieces, and obviously it also gave me more fun ideas to razz or jazz them with.

  1. I 1000% agree with this

  2. the way you present the example paragraph is so sublimely funny via its gravitas. When you write it out like that it is hard for me to not imagine some cartoony philosopher smoking a bubble pipe while musing on the concept and it's beautiful. Humanity's beautiful. We're so goddamn weird I love us.