this is petty but i do wonder what it will take to convince ppl that not all trans people are in their first 2 years of transition. like will this ever happen? people who aren't trans women always seem absolutely astounded when I tell them I've actually been living as a woman for my entire adult life. That, in fact, I have been shopping for my own clothes from the women's aisle of the store for exactly as long as any cis woman has assuming she didn't have her own source of income as an adolescent. Maybe she did, but like, so that's what, a four year head start over me? idk just venting a little cuz today someone just assumed I don't have breasts because I'm trans and like... ked... I have D Cups...
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in my experience, some new idiot comes along 18 months in every time and loudly starts a channel that resets everyone's ideas again
One time recently I vented to a coworker about being sexually harassed on my way to work and she said “welcome to being a woman” and I just said like “so like, I have been living as a woman for over ten years, and this is absolutely not the first time I’ve been sexually harassed in public. I can still be bothered by it and wanna commiserate a little with another woman. But sure, thanks. Welcome to you too.”
most of the time now people are like "oh no wonder you're leaving this" ma'am what sort of assumptions are you making about me :|
i always feel like i'm in the very beginning part of transition but i've actually been out for 5 years and known i was trans for 8 years (still not as long as most trans people, but it's always longer than i think it is, for myself)
Oh no, if the referral rates are anything to go by there's every likelihood that after 3 years you really have been out for longer than most trans people. And my direct experience is that it certainly feels like that: there's so many new kids running around that it's absurd
I don't think it's a point that can be got to easily, at least not without a step change in generational entanglement. transition in the eyes and ears of cis people biases towards highly visible beginnings, not the stride of Just Living. And the most easily found trans subcultures have their own bias towards being recently-out.