I hate forced perspective pie charts because skewing the chart causes the relative size of each slice to become less clear. The way that something being far away always look smaller As things grow more distant in life, they can come to feel less important. Something that was incredibly meaningful to you, for better or for worse, comes to feel like a smaller part of who you are the more you accrue each additional life experience, shrinking the relative part of your life that that experience takes up. This is why time appears to move faster with every oncoming day. When you were five years old, every day was 1/1825th of your entire life. When you are 30 years old, every day is 1/10950th of your life. Time moves 6 times faster relative to your conscious memory. And in your memory, are those big big memories, that ones that perhaps were so much more impactful on you, and continue to be so meaningful for you, even as you might perceive them as much smaller than they area because they are far away. Perhaps one memory takes up five times more space than any other memory and you don't even realize how that experience is shaping your behaviors and feelings because it's so far away it's hard to even see it without using a telescope. When you look at it with a telescope, it becomes much much bigger than it really is. It becomes overwhelming. It's hard to even keep thinking. You literally have tunnel vision and become overwhelmed by how big it feels now that you're really looking at it, all those emotions flooding back. But it's still not the proper size. It's bigger now than it really is. But it's still less than 1/10950th of your entire life. Every passing day gives you more experiences to define yourself by, more things to allow to drive you and shape who you are.
Our childhoods feel much bigger because, when they happened, every memory was of 1/1825th of life. But by age 30, you'e acquired 9,125 more days to make meaningful for you. You can allow yourself to continue to build yourself in adulthood. You don't have to stop growing and changing and, in fact, you are allowed to grow and change so much that you become completely different. I think it's the other side of the coin from re-parenting. You can give yourself everything you never had as a child, treat yourself the ways you deserved to be treated, try to fill those ulcers in your heart. But you can also put everything into perspective. See how small it all is relative to everything you've become, the person you have grown into being, everything you have built for yourself despite it all. Rotate the pie chart so it lays flat, look at it from a bird's eye view, and look at how huge everything else in life can be. So what if you spent 7,300 days with a family you never chose who mistreated you. You have spent 3,650 with people who truly love you, and that number may be smaller now, but every day it will grow larger and larger and someday it will overtake the past, as those 7,300 days get farther and farther away.
If you are being forced to spend today with people who mistreat you; remember this is only 1/365th of 1/75ish years of your entire life. It, on average, is only 1/27,365th of your life. It will be over very soon.
If you are spending today alone. Remember you can choose what is meaningful. Today is a normal Thursday. I've been there and I know how painful it can be to have a normal Thursday when everyone else seems to be having a wonderful time. Even when you know that in reality it is culturally accepted that it is actually miserable for most people. Even when you know this holiday is actually a celebration of genocide; you still feel bad that you have nobody to spend it with. I highly recommend watching the movie Clue. Not for any particular reason I just think it's a really good movie.