chirasul
@chirasul

its weird how many people will get mad at you if you suggest something like "i try not to entertain any instinct to make fun of someone - anyone - even if im arguably ethically justified for doing so" like i thought that was a really basic idea, really essential


chirasul
@chirasul

it feels REALLY righteous to make fun of someone. especially someone doing things you dont like, or things that are generally just harmful, or for any other reason. if someone espouses an idea you oppose, it feels good to make fun of them. because finally, finally! a target! a target to receive my justice, even if they'll never actually witness my ire, and they only serve as an ideological punching bag to get my companions and peers to agree with me. that feels good. it feels right.

but after trying it for a few years ive realized that good things dont actually come out of that. especially if it becomes a social event. you just get better at making fun of people (which will eventually come around to bite you, like one day you'll be low energy and you'll find yourself pointing your mockery at someone who DOES see it, who IS affected by it, and who WILL be hurt by it - like a friend, someone you love), and you'll surround yourself with people who connect with each other through making fun of people. this results in only bad things.

but if you practice not reacting to things that do not really, actually, immediately demand a reaction from you, it becomes easier to not engage with things that piss you off, things that get you riled up. it clears your mind. makes it easier to know which things you can actionably affect, which things you can participate with and enact justice within, and which things are just weird or bad but ultimately you cant do anything about except live your own life. and honestly there's no better ethical action out there than just living your own life


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"happened"? i dont make posts like this in response to individual actions - i only make posts like this when i start to notice a pattern. lots of actions, lots of people. patterns are more important than individual actions

this but especially this because i am in high school and people get semi weirded out at the fact that i am entirely open. i dont make fun of people for being different or doing things that i dislike. it weirds everyone out 4 some reason and im like??? why??? doesnt everyone deserve a chance to be heard out or somefin??

only people i rlly make fun of like this are horribly bigoted popular (like. media popular) people like matt walsh and trump n shit.

sorry, but I'm also talking about people who are horribly bigoted and powerful. the point is not about who "deserves" mockery (which is difficult to quantify and define); the point is that making a habit of mocking anyone, even those people, changes you. and the way it changes you will hurt you and the people you love. and the only way to avoid doing that is to cut the habit of making fun of people out of your life completely, and learn to focus your attention on things that you can control, like your own life and relationships

no exactly i 100% agree, and i'm still trying to break this habit, it's not easy when you're surrounded by it the minute you start being an internet user. even just trying to eventually get out of it entirely, and starting where i have has absolutely changed me [wow, marsha was (somewhat) right???]. lifes experiences are different to everyone, and my attention being focused more on what matters to me, rather than trying to prove societal, or even just my own expectations. it's made alot of things alot easier on myself. i dont give a shit about the specifics of others anymore, and it makes my brain so much easier to focus on >:3

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I have been trying to curtail this behavior in myself and as a result I have mostly become keenly aware of people I know who default to reflexive snark and how hurtful it is over time