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I think my least enjoyed expression of this is "You haven't watched (XYZ media thing usually made for children)? You have to, it's so queer!" Not only as though that's the only criteria that matters, but also as though said piece of media has been adopted into queer canon as pop-culture identity must-haves for 30 year olds.

God I feel this post so deep in my bones.

Huh. The definition I've seen most is, roughly, that transgender people are people for whom the set of genders they are does not match the set of genders they were assigned at birth.

i feel this so hard ough

Gosh, yeah. Incredibly well put! I always worry that talking about this makes me sound like an asshole, like I'm being bitter and spiteful, but its so hard to deal with constantly. And I never say it to try to close off any possibility of sisterhood, I say it because I wish things felt more open for me to connect with others.

i rly like your point about how a narrow kind of identity-making can be useful and exploratory in private contexts while harmful in public ones. that's a helpful distinction to make

This is why I really dislike the "Transgender Shitposting" group on redacted-book, a lot of the memes are very white-centric, and some of the memes are literally stolen and uncredited fanart with Impact-font captions slapped on top (sometimes even being labeled "OC" or watermarked, ie. plagiarism), as if Japanese-made fanart is little more than public domain assets for anyone to use - never mind that many Japanaese artists have a "no unauthorized redistribution" clause.

I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling this way about white queer culture because I've wanted to say this but fear I'll be thrown off the Golden Gate Bridge by the Silicon Valley queer community

I don't actually care for Bioncle.

me when a lot of trans people I know (including myself) never had a "dysphoria hoodie" after someone insisted to me that every trans person has them.

Blehhh, Ive only had haphazard attempts at learning to code, purely for my own enjoyment and wanting to like, hopefully make some decent money for once. I cant imagine how much worse that experience would have been dealing with all that in addition to the inherent difficulties of that process.

I'm really hoping we can get some sort of better demographic shift on cohost, because I got really tired of Twitter making me feel angry and sad all the time, and tumblr being something that felt difficult for me to navigate. Ive been really thankful to see accounts like yours though, you bring so much and its been a joy for me to experience ^^

I have an internal joke of always asking what things like "Blahaj" or "programming socks" mean whenever another trans person mentions it in a conversation, speaking as if I was already supposed to know that. A lot of people will actually act surprised or like- pitied? when I don't know.

It already bothers me that white trans people in the Global North assume the trans experience(TM) as an universal thing and it bothers even more when it's based on patterns of consumption.

I'm sorry you went through that.. I think some minorities groups are so desperate to find community that they end up actually gatekeeping their own minority group. I might be wrong here, but historically, minorities forming their own communities is something relatively new, we need to have lots and lots of talks like this one until things starts getting better 🫠 (that's my point of view though, I might be veeery wrong)

and, I know this isn't the point of your chost but let me know if you didn't give up in learning github, I think I can provide some good sources :D

i dont say this lightly but im so happy i came into my own sense of self (gender id, sexuality, ANYTHING tbh) in my little bubble of diversity. im forever thankful for that bc if i had been made aware of my own transness lets say, 5 years ago, i'd have been miserable and riddled with "imposter syndrome"

daily affirmations: i am transgender and have spent months now trying to learn to download a photography portfolio website template builder thing from github 🫡 and that’s ok.