This post has content warnings for: emotional abuse, suicidal ideation, this is a story about seeing my emotionally abusive ex on TV at the Oscars - it is heavy but ultimately lands on hopefulness!.
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in reply to @sperra's post:
thank you for sharing this, I know every written word wasn't easy. I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. At every paragraph, I wish I could've given you a hug; as you noted, it was abuse, and it was difficult to read how she forced you to internalize all those things and put them under such painful labels as a means of boxing you in.
You've got a lovely, creative, and beautiful mind, but even putting all of that aside, you deserve everything and more.
This is a powerful, vulnerable, read, thank you for sharing it.
I spent years in a mariage that was - in retrospect - very different from how I perceived it at the time and in retrospect I have a lot of regrets about it, but I don't regret the life I have now and I wouldn't have got here without that. It's a complicated feeling and I think you're right to treat the person you were with compassion. We're always doing the best we can with who we are and the evidence in front of us.