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artemis
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skill is almost frustratingly inevitable. If you do something enough, you will get good at it. This outcome is nearly impossible to avoid.

yet so many things are fun in completely different ways when you're bad at them than when you're good at them. playing slow songs in a rhythm game. mashing buttons senselessly in a group smash bros match. drawing crude art of your favorite characters. writing gratuitous fiction full of every bad trope on the list, failing your first dungeon in an MMO. exploring your first steps into intimacy.

i'm learning guitar right now. i'm not very good at it. i can't play much more than a few arpeggiations, maybe a chord if i'm lucky. often with mistakes and pauses and missteps.

but what i can do is explore all the intricacies of how a guitar can sound. the subtle changes in tone as i strum with my finger pads, or my finger nail, or a pick. how the strumming angle and power changes it, how strumming in just the right spot turns the sound into an almost perfect square wave, how pressing down hard and fast against a fret makes two notes sound out, how different tunings lead into different melodies so naturally. i can make the metal wires rattle in a pleasing way, or keep them mute. i can discover all the percussive potential of the wooden body of an acoustic. i can feel the hints of what a guitar player's callouses feel like. i can experience the first joy of someone i love telling me that my playing sounds beautiful.

i will get good, eventually. and maybe some of these joys will stay; others will be rote. taken for granted. subsumed into the subconscious beneath the layer of awareness. it's strange, isn't it?


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god, this is super poetic and makes me recall how playing my guitar first felt. know you can always explore more sounds. try a screwdriver against the strings, do weird bends, explore the space and have fun:)

I'm teaching myself bass guitar, and it's much the same. I'm able to fumble my way through a couple songs I like, provided I have tabulature, but my focus is mostly on the physical technique of playing a bass: learning how to place my fingers, how to strum, how to switch between frets and strings quickly, and all that fun stuff.

There's a whole bunch of stuff I've read about modeling skill acquisition, and I'm definitely noticing the patterns those texts have described. It's a lot of fun!

And then there's that uncanny intermediate where you're skilled enough to be able to imagine what it's like to enjoy this thing when you're good at it, but you're not quite there.
Which can also be kind of fun!

Which can also be kind of fun!

Or utterly soul-crushing if you have ADHD that prevents you from practicing and then gives you intrusive thoughts of never actually making it because you know you go into depression every time you try to force yourself to focus on it

Yeahh, since having written that, ADHD has kept me in that ”Which can also be kind of fun!“ stage forever in the particular skills that I was thinking of. 😅😅😅

Just gotta... keep convincing myself... that it can be kind of fun aaa

our ADHD is precisely why we fell in love with the process. for us the destination is not guaranteed whatsoever, so living for the destination is hardly worthwhile. this after many years of a troubled relationship with all of our hobbies, especially music. It was truly the only way out of the pain that made sense to us. we are no strangers to the depressive spirals around hobbies, they used to be quite a regular occurence. those spirals still stop by now and again, though they hardly visit due to our hobbies they way they once did. though every once in awhile, when a manic spell tips a bit too deep into melancholy, and they come wandering in through the door, the hobbies can become a weapon of theirs if we're not careful.

the degree of our bipolarity coming into clarity, and learning to engage with it directly, helped a great deal with it all. the interaction between ADHD and mania can be quite villainous, and tip the scales towards depression rather quickly if we don't treat it with care.

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