pronouns are fun because you can reserve the special, secret fun ones for people that you trust the most
like, people i meet irl that can judge me by my physical appearance (height, shape of my face, my voice etc.) ONLY get the they/them pass. cuz unless theyre especially hip with gender i KNOW theyre going to be only exclusively she/her'ing me if i give them my actual full list of pronouns
people online get to use whatever they want (of they/he/she) cuz they dont get my physical appearance to base their assumptions off of, only my highly curated online presence
i guess i just have too much gender for mortal senses to comprehend