switchaxe 🏳️‍⚧️

even if youre angry. even if you dont like something that someone said for whatever reason or another. everyone needs to stop and take some deep breaths for a few fucking days, none of this stuff is constructive. the "if you dont have something nice to say dont say it at all" principle really applies here.

if you see someone, ANYONE, talking about their life experiences online you shouldnt fucking demonize them. and if someone says something online that you dont like, you dont have to engage with it. and in fact you probably shouldnt! think about WHY you feel the way you do, and if its fair to blame the person who posted it in the first place for your feelings. in 99% of cases it probably isnt.

p.s. this is going to be the last post i make on this topic so please take it to heart

something that always disheartened me about tumblr (and twitter but i had less experience there) that im thankfully seeing a lot less of on cohost is people who dedicate their ENTIRE online life to engaging with discourse. and i dont mean activism, i mean like witch-hunty "there is a group of Bad People with X highly specific Bad Opinion that is our enemy and the only thing we can do about it is keep attacking individuals" type discourse. and of course that mentality tends to eerily creep into online activism circles sometimes but thats another can of worms entirely. so

i cant imagine filling all of my social media pages almost entirely full of the kinds of combative and circular debates that discourse seems to bring? that sounds like a one way ticket to making yourself more miserable than necessary, especially given that social media is a recreational luxury. if youre seeing things that upset you in every single corner of your hellsite of choice, maybe you should log off. if people online are treating you poorly, maybe you should log off. you dont owe them documentation of your suffering, or even your anger.

this type of discourse also seems to frame the internet as the #1 and only battleground for any kind of activism which is exceedingly strange to me, and the more i see that idea getting spread the more that i myself want to just log off and go get more involved with my local queer community center instead.

so i guess, TL;DR: set boundaries, and remember that joy is resistance.