possibly incindiary and negative plural community take #989085903485395 from me, but. i really think traumagenic systems (and specifically traumagenic systems who go out of their way to only interact with other traumagenic systems) are a lot more prone to being super pickme-ish about their plurality than any other system origin. and it's ironic to me because for people who are deeply protective of their definition of plurality to like, protect themselves from "attention seeking fakers" or whatever... i genuinely think they treat their trauma and plurality more like something to get clicks from than anyone else in the plural community.
and like. look, my plurality is traumagenic too, but... i've known about it for the better part of a decade. i haven't completely "moved on" from it. but i have grown beyond a lot of it. and a huge part of that was letting myself be something other than the most traumatized person in the room for once. that's a really hard part of recovery whether you're plural or not but like. it's worth it. and it makes it really hard to associate with these types of traumagenic systems because, like... i straight up don't have that many shared experiences with them anymore. i don't need to find community in how mentally ill and traumatized i am, because even if i'm still plural... i've put work into being happier. i've just moved past the point in my life where this "putting all my baggage on my profile" stuff serves me.
like it's possible that this isn't strictly a sysmed thing, it could be a newly-discovered traumagenic system thing, but like... with a lot of these plurals it really feels like. okay, so you're plural because of stuff you went through as a kid, and you've clearly done a lot of research about the subject to come to this opinion. i'm sorry for all that and i recognize that you've done your research, that's good at least. but like. do you have hobbies? or do you just want more people to read about how horrible your life is online? because fair's fair, but i'm not like. going to reopen my own wounds just to give you attention online. sorry.