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does anyone else find egg jokes about plurality in particluar to be kind of off-putting, especially when it's about other people? like, i get wanting to introduce people to the idea of being plural, but trying to clock people who don't claim to be plural gets really uncomfortable really fast. i'm only out as plural in very specific places, and the idea that someone elsewhere might be looking at how we talk, walk, type, etc and calling us a "plural egg" is super offputting.

it just feels like a privacy violation to me?

like for me, i dont want to exclude plurals from the community if their plural identity is well-meaning, like i dont really care about a system's origins or the specifics of your structure. if you mean it when you say you're plural then you're plural. but i also feel like if someone doesn't say they're plural, you should respect that too. if they're struggling it's worth talking to them about it but that's different from saying you get "plural vibes" from a whole real person who isn't out as plural.

maybe they are and don't know. (how is that a joke anyways? the last time being plural was actually awful for me is when i didn't know i had other people in my brain?) maybe they aren't and you don't know how to react to them. maybe they're private about being plural for one of the infinite reasons you wouldn't want strangers to know that about you. (if it's DID/OSDD, that's technically a medical condition; would you ask a stranger about their medical history? if you would, why on earth would you?)

anyhow if anyone ever finds me somewhere i'm not out as plural and calls us a plural egg, i'm deleting my damn page if it's online. like we dont have the option to fuck around with that everywhere and we try to put effort into keeping our profiles as separate as possible specifically to avoid being outed as plural.

i think the thing that bothers me the most about people who r like "why would i use cohost if i cant build a following with no algorithm?" isnt necessarily the idea that people want to rethink the idea of Building A Following, but the fact that a lot of us just want an online space where we can hang out

it makes sense that the loudest voices are the ones that seek the biggest following, but also, shoutout to everyone who logs in online just to vibe and doesnt really want tons of followers

ive talked before about how "amassing tons of followers" and "my posts spreading well beyond how i can predict/going viral" is directly against my own values as someone who is openly plural online and has been cyberstalked before, but a lot of how i approach the internet comes from an interest in just Kinda Vibing and not even my own damage