many of my closest friends are hyper-independent due to trauma and I'm like "yup that's what hyper-independence as a trauma response looks like" and assumed for the longest time that I was not one of those people because their hyper-independence is cranked up to 120% and mine is just cranked up to 70%

but apparently stumbling to the convenience store with a fever because I didn't have any medicine or supplies at home to deal with a fever instead of asking for help from anyone because this is my problem and I need to take care of it and it's not like anyone is going to help me anyway even if I ask is not "healthy" but is in fact "maladaptive"