I 100% get this, and it's not that there's anything wrong with the other rep but sometimes it's nice as a queer person to imagine a completely uneventful life. Where being queer doesn't HAVE to be a big deal, where life goes on, where things are just calm for a while and there's no real urgency to everything we do. It's not about conforming to any standard or "trying to please the straights", it's about queer people coming from all different places and motivations and lives and just because someone doesn't wear it all on the outside doesn't mean they're any less proud of who they are, it just mean they have a style that works for them.
And to be clear, I say this as someone with a sideshave and a dramatic wardrobe and who wants to completely cover one arm in tattoos. There's a difference in what Casey's talking about here and the people who don't want queer to be loud at all.
