most of what i've seen of the "masculinity crisis" is self-inflicted nonsense like this. there's a truism that goes "a lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine" and this is in general what i feel about the whole topic
absolutely no one in this world is more obsessed with gender than these kinds of cis people. how do they fucking get through the day like this
Obsessed with and yet deeply incurious of.
It's a magical feeling of safety by tunneling so deep in a certain direction of ideological reality. It's illusory, but it feels real and it's socially real among those who follow it.
The problem, of course, is what they have to do to the rest of us to prop up their image that their way is the exclusive reality (and the magic does not work is they acknowledge it isn't).
