Kit Kombat

have you audited your pronouns lately

theIRS

most of what i've seen of the "masculinity crisis" is self-inflicted nonsense like this. there's a truism that goes "a lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine" and this is in general what i feel about the whole topic

absolutely no one in this world is more obsessed with gender than these kinds of cis people. how do they fucking get through the day like this

Obsessed with and yet deeply incurious of.

It's a magical feeling of safety by tunneling so deep in a certain direction of ideological reality. It's illusory, but it feels real and it's socially real among those who follow it.

The problem, of course, is what they have to do to the rest of us to prop up their image that their way is the exclusive reality (and the magic does not work is they acknowledge it isn't).

honestly its kinda hard to manage anxiety when there's alot of, in my opinion, stuff going on where it's completely justified to have anxiety about them

It's a big problem with behavioral therapy that the discipline basically assumes that all disordered thoughts and therefore behaviors have internal causes. Or at least, this is a mode I've encountered in therapists. Still, anxiety reflects spending mental energy uselessly because you're stuck on something you can't affect with real action right now. Often complicated by other mental blocks - for me, the reason I can't affect the thing is often because my ADHD won't let me try.

I often find that the only way to manage my anxiety over real and imminent issues is to either get another person to help monitor me starting the dreaded tasks, or to entirely block out the subject while doing some other useful task or chore until the mental irritation around the subject subsides. The latter works especially well when the real subject is less imminent than it feels - yes, bigoted laws against trans people being passed is bad, and dangerous, and scary. But it's also not physically in my life right here and now this second, and letting it stop me from getting up to take a shower and get food is only going to make me more miserable. So doing those mundane tasks to improve my immediate comfort can be a focus to allow my mind to put down the chew toy.

Whether it's personal scale (I am anxious about my continued unemployment) or larger (I am anxious about the danger my queer trans girlfriends face going anywhere and doing anything because of bigotry), all the causes of my anxiety are inherently political. Unfortunately, that means patience will be needed, because nothing involving how society in general self-organizes will be solved overnight. So in my view, managing anxiety is all about pain management, while doing what can be done to remove the causes of pain at the root.