transphobes will never happy with what you as a trans person do, to the point where they tie themselves in knots with contradictions.
i spent a lot of my life being told "you're an ugly masculine girl, you're not feminine enough, no one sees you as a real girl"
and then i said "ok well i'm a boy" and people said "you're not masculine enough, you're too feminine to be a boy, no one will ever see you as a real man when you grow up"
and then i was like "well i guess i'm non-binary then" and people said "you don't look androgynous enough. non-binary genders aren't real, just pick female or male. no adult is non-binary, you'll pick male or female soon enough. you are actually a woman/man, you're just gender non-conforming or expressive about it."
and then i decided that i am actually gender non-conforming and that i've had enough of gender, and i get told i can't do that and i get labelled as a man/woman/non-binary against my will. but if i went back to calling myself a woman/man/non-binary then i would just be told i'm not feminine/masculine/androgynous/whatever enough again.