very funny/strange to sit in a car next to someone who will call me he/him without hesitation while there's another person in the front who calls me she/her without hesitation. and they never seem to question each other?? not sure what's going on with my gender presentation that makes things like this keep happening.
i think i sort of get simultaneously read as a feminine man and a masculine woman?? at least that's what i assume. i have strangers call me a man/he/him or a woman/she/her, seemingly (at least subconsciously) sure in how they're gendering me. and a few people i know have said "i thought you were a cis man/cis woman when we first met". and of course i still get the occasional person awkwardly going "uhhh she- no he- uhhh they-she-he uhhhh that one-".
all very interesting. i think it's interesting to see how people's perception of my gender has changed as i've aged and started hrt. and how if i'm read as a woman people assume i'm older than i am, but if i'm read as a man people assume i'm younger than i am.
sometimes i wish i could make a questionnaire about my gender and give it to these random strangers to fill in so i have an idea of how/why i get gendered in the ways i do, and how it relates to the stranger's own ideas about gender, ideas about age, cultural background, etc. but that would be strange and probably most of them are doing subconsciously so they might not necessarily know anyway.