I'm very lax about my identity on so many things: gender, sexuality, alterhumanity, the works. I used to feel the need to know Exactly who I was and what words fit me perfectly, but as I've grown older I've gained a lot of comfort in simply Being. using what feels right at whatever given time, not worrying about the permanence of a feeling, things like that
of course that's hard to get to, and I still struggle with it especially because of having bpd. but if anything having bpd makes having this worldview all the more necessary and beneficial? because like, I Don't know who I'm gonna be in a year. i constantly am trying new identity aspects out because my sense of self is so unstable and fluid... and I guess this is me learning to live with it? besides, I think all people's identities shift as they grow, "identity isn't rigid" is just a healthy mindset to have in general. enjoy it in the moment