in my experience, how confident someone is in their correctness is pretty uncorrelated to how actually correct they are.
i try to take a lot of feedback from people i know, because that's coming with context that helps me know what biases and values each individual has. but with people online who i don't really know, it's hard for me to evaluate where they're coming from with what they say
Yeah at a certain level of online visibility I realized that taking every criticism seriously would actually make me a worse person because I would be so easy to manipulate, so I set myself a rule that I will only act on feedback from people I have a reason to trust
Because I could see a lot of other people in the space, who were doing similar awareness work to mine, were getting straight up abused by strangers who knew exactly the right words to say to make them feel unforgivably evil. I did not want the same thing to happen to me, but I wanted to continue talking about OCD, so I started tuning out random scolding as a protective measure.
anyway the good news is that we both developed Postin Good as a coping mechanism maybe
It's kind of funny how many skilled posters I meet who have a similar mental illness profile. Almost like I could write my own DSM.