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whit @whit7/1/2023, 5:35 PM

I've had a couple of friends say that they can't get into cohost because they don't feel witty or funny enough to be on here, and for one thing, of course they are, they're my friends, I only hang with witty and funny people, but also... in a nice way, I feel like I've maybe given too much of an impression that everyone on cohost is a hilarious posting genious, because I've been telling people to just start following people I repost. And of course I'm not reposting people who are just posting normal-ass stuff about their lives, because that's freak behavior! But I def follow people who are just doing their thing on here, generally bit-free. And I love it! I love to just like, see people saying shit about their lives again, without the pressure to be quip quip pithy. gotta make it clear this is a good place for that, too

cohost: for Posts, but also, just for posts.

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Josie 🥦@josiebroccoli7/1/2023, 5:53 PM

I felt that way for a while because at first I was following like, people who know the staff mainly. But I've gotten more into it once I stopped worrying so much about "what if I have bad vibes" and learned to just go with it.

whit @whit7/1/2023, 8:24 PM

Yeah, and the lack of engagement metrics doesn't give you a lot of easy boosts to know if anyone is out there or into anything you do. but I like, went and sat under a waterfall for three days with the question of Why Do I Post? and it is simply to make a record of myself outside myself that it's very easily possible for someone else to behold

Sherliz Holmes @JhoiraArtificer7/1/2023, 5:58 PM

Yeah! The beauty is you can just Exist and make posts or Posts and see posts and Posts and it just feels like, idk, walking down the street.

whit @whit7/1/2023, 8:22 PM

I keep saying that the cohost vibe is like livejournal swirled with 2013 twitter, aka the two times I've been the most content and made the most friends online

Sherliz Holmes @JhoiraArtificer7/1/2023, 9:24 PM

yeah most of my remaining affection for twitter (until cohost lmao) was the remnants of the friends I made circa 2011-2013 :eggbug-nervous:

rachel @wholemilk7/1/2023, 8:05 PM

just be a person here, feels like the rule!!!

whit @whit7/1/2023, 8:21 PM

be a person! and if you want, do bits! whatever! no rules just eggbug!

rachel @wholemilk7/1/2023, 8:23 PM

Owen Nelson @onelson7/1/2023, 8:27 PM

I love confessional posting. I can't get enough of making people face just how awful I am.

Separately, I had people tell me they just couldn't get their feed going to the point where the site worked for them. I, uh, used my web developer experience to, uh, hack the planet?! and export a list of people I follow. That list is long out of date, but that's what it was.

I get why exposing follow lists isn't something cohost just does, but when you're just getting started, tracing someone else's network can be a useful tool.

rachel @wholemilk7/1/2023, 8:44 PM

I love personal posting so fricking much, it's like the nourishment livejournal used to offer back in the day

whit @whit7/1/2023, 9:03 PM

Man, and it's just felt really healthy for my psyche. That I can just write about what's going on in my life without feeling like I am Performing or Making Content for an audience of thousands. Like, yeah, I'm probably going to be funny when I do it but that is because I have made some of the best jokes on the worst days of my life.

@beatleboot7/1/2023, 8:58 PM

Funny because something I've always struggled with on twitter is that my sense of humour only comes across if you interact with me irl. Being surrounded by people who are constantly talking in bits and witty dunks hasn't been great for me!

whit @whit7/1/2023, 9:02 PM

boy howdy... this makes me think about how most of the closest friends on twitter were made BEFORE all the dunking was the main way people made jokes. Back in the weird twitter era!!!

@beatleboot7/1/2023, 9:19 PM

That makes a lot of sense to me. The very online way of communicating there is just so isolating to me because I can't make myself talk that way and it stops you from actually getting to know people. Also makes you afraid of becoming someone everybody decides to dunk on because you were too sincere for a moment. lol

whit @whit7/1/2023, 9:24 PM

It really does! And I've been on there long enough to remember.... it wasn't always like that! It really started to affect my interactions with people who AREN'T turbo online, as I started like, hypercorrecting to protect against an imagined mob, and someone who did not soak their brain in ammonia for a decade does not presume that they'll have the worst week of their life because they phrased an opinion wrong.

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