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welcome to my personal hell

dragon warrior iii for the game boy color describes me as "stubborn", and i'm tempted to agree with that assessment


co-owner tcrf.net. i run an old forum, jul.
i've been around the internet since '01.
i generally feel like the internet
peaked somewhere around '07.


private: @xkeeper-PLUS
18+: @xkeeper-TI


plural / some kind of digital therian thing.
still discovering myself.
all of this is new to me.


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wobblegong
@wobblegong

The reason there's no vent channel in this Discord server is almost certainly because the moderators are aware that vent channels are extremely likely to turn into radioactive cesspits that attract, retain, and encourage Miserable/Unpleasant People. As this fucking sucks to moderate and has a depressingly high chance to embolden shitty people enough for them to start exporting their fecal matter all over the server, some will simply decline to entertain it at all.

If you realize you can't find a vent channel to use, I gently encourage you to take it as a reminder that where and how you vent matter and public chat channels are generally unproductive (people are unlikely to "complete the circuit" and interact with you in satisfying ways) with heightened risk for further hurt/drama/fallout (because people can see what you said and judge you for it). A private journal or a personal friend are much safer, more private, more productive spaces for processing your emotions. No seriously a physical journal is great, you can write out the ugliest possible feelings onto the page and physically set it on fire later if you want. I feel like people fail to appreciate the cleansing power of immolating their written words these days. Cathartic as can be.


xkeeper
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(because people can see what you said and judge you for it)

discord also stores conversations forever. so every discussion, every vent, every rant? that stays there.

every new person who joins? any time someone with an axe to grind finds out and joins? they can see everything. all of it.

and if you get someone actively malicious, who is looking for things they can use against people? boy howdy. it's not just a toxic environment issue, it's a safety issue now. thanks, discord.

venting in something like irc sort-of worked because it was ephemeral. you said shit, and only the people who were online at the time can read it. you could not join years later and click "sort by oldest" and go snooping through everyone's worst moments.

some conversations are simply not supposed to be stored and archived indefinitely.

disclaimer

"but you could have logs on IRC" yes, but for the vast majority of channels there is no easy way to hit ctrl-f and idly poke through half a decade of conversations. personal logs are wildly different from always-on public ones.


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in reply to @wobblegong's post:

Personally I've found that Venting on the internet often reinforces your bad feelings and makes you feel worse, and then you fall into this pattern of repeatedly projecting your negative feelings onto other people. And, less importantly, depending on the subject matter you might just look like a big jackass doing it

And yeah I've also seen that when Venting/Ranting is encouraged in online spaces it often makes the community more sour and prone to excessive negativity (recent sources: some subreddits I browse)