Ever since Alyaza's excellent Cohost so white post I have noticed an immediate up tick, by white users on this website, trying to distance themselves from this site's racist culture, by trying to attach An Other onto the racists. From a post finger wagging about folks with RSD (everyone's favourite silencer to talk about PTSD/BPD folks) and now... A post by a white user piggy backing from TV-MA's excellent White Supremacy Culture post For me, a POC with these "Bad disabled/neurodiverse" conditions like BPD, that post trending is the last straw and a sign that right now Cohost culturally is beyond saving. This bit of the post spesficly:
These kinds of people will often have an array of reasons at the ready to explain away abusive and racist behavior - they might even have a self-diagnosed condition that you yourself have been diagnosed with and treated for in a clinical setting for a decade or more,
This bit, was surrounded by a well meaning post, the OP even divulging in how White Supremacy mechanics were weaponised against themselves. But this is a Trojan Horse nature of this kind of rhetoric, it's 99% a good point and 1% "If you're self-diagosed, you're the same as the Bad Whites, unlike me the Good White."
Even though I am said "Good Disabled" in this instance (diagnosed with Autism since I was 4) this is just so hurtful to get recohosted unchallenged. Do you know who is likely to self-diagnose? People who are at risk of harm via interacting with Health Care, like hhmmmmmmmmmm justoffthetopofmyhheeaaddd People who experience racism within the medical complex y'know the very People of Colour you're claiming to be an ally of.
So this is the fun situation I find myself in: I see a culture of a website gang up on POC posters like myself, I see the other half of the culture denounce this racism, only for them to now start going after Disabled/ND people like myself.
Neither side of my identity is safe on here. All just so the White Folk can feel more comfortable about themselves, all to avoid doing the work on themselves, in posts ironically about white people not doing the work on themselves.
No matter how you try, there is no common "Other" you can find when it comes to the racism on social media sites, there is no THEM. It's you, it's all of you under a white supremacy. This speedrun to find a trait that you don't share with THEM to absolve yourself cannot be found, all you've achieved is now making the very POC you claim to do this for, feel even more unsafe.
I'm out, I'll edit my pinned post so you know where to find me, but I'd rather take my chance on other sites. Even when bigger sites are more racist/albeist, they are also more vast, plenty of little crevices to build community. Meanwhile here is a cramped room full of people, one half hunting for Browns and the other half for Spasitcs. Maybe in a few years this website will change for the better, but no reason for me to stay for this for now, I'm out.
