(forgive me for vagueposting about a different thing but the comments on the other one got locked overnight so I couldn't reply there)
Me: I've got mixed feelings about "reclaiming" when it's not done in a community-wide, fairly consistent way
brain geniuses: I can't believe you're telling me I can't identify the way I want to! You can't police my identity!
Me: ???? I never said that ????